Difficult day.
May. 29th, 2006 12:05 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
valis2A friend's beloved grandfather is dying in the hospital. I went with him and most of the family was there. They were very welcoming, but still, I felt terrible to intrude on such a private matter.
Seeing anyone cry makes me want to cry, and it was a long, difficult evening. Grief tears everyone up. I just feel so sad, that a good man is leaving. He had a wonderful, very full life, with a great family, and I know that we shouldn't be sad, that we should be happy, but it's really hard. And I can't think of anything to say that is in the least bit comforting.
We were leaving, and he's still very lucid, though he will most likely pass during the night. I had a moment with him, but how do you say anything? I said, "Hi, sweetheart, you were wonderful," but now I think it was a terribly morbid thing to say, because I actually wanted to say more, and now I realize I used the past tense, but I couldn't really finish the sentence because I got overwhelmed.
"The dead know only one thing. It is better to be alive."
Seeing anyone cry makes me want to cry, and it was a long, difficult evening. Grief tears everyone up. I just feel so sad, that a good man is leaving. He had a wonderful, very full life, with a great family, and I know that we shouldn't be sad, that we should be happy, but it's really hard. And I can't think of anything to say that is in the least bit comforting.
We were leaving, and he's still very lucid, though he will most likely pass during the night. I had a moment with him, but how do you say anything? I said, "Hi, sweetheart, you were wonderful," but now I think it was a terribly morbid thing to say, because I actually wanted to say more, and now I realize I used the past tense, but I couldn't really finish the sentence because I got overwhelmed.
"The dead know only one thing. It is better to be alive."
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Date: 2006-05-30 03:01 pm (UTC)This is a bit late, but I'm just now getting back online. I think what you said was prefectly fine, and I'm sure he understood what you meant. I also have a hard time holding in emotions when others are, for lack of a better term, emitting them so powerfully. I'm sure he appreciated your presence and emotion and the family did, too.
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Date: 2006-05-31 12:34 am (UTC)He didn't pass away.
In fact, he ate mashed potatoes and gravy the next morning.
Go figure. *laughs*