Difficult day.

[valis2]

A friend's beloved grandfather is dying in the hospital. I went with him and most of the family was there. They were very welcoming, but still, I felt terrible to intrude on such a private matter.

Seeing anyone cry makes me want to cry, and it was a long, difficult evening. Grief tears everyone up. I just feel so sad, that a good man is leaving. He had a wonderful, very full life, with a great family, and I know that we shouldn't be sad, that we should be happy, but it's really hard. And I can't think of anything to say that is in the least bit comforting.

We were leaving, and he's still very lucid, though he will most likely pass during the night. I had a moment with him, but how do you say anything? I said, "Hi, sweetheart, you were wonderful," but now I think it was a terribly morbid thing to say, because I actually wanted to say more, and now I realize I used the past tense, but I couldn't really finish the sentence because I got overwhelmed.

"The dead know only one thing. It is better to be alive."

Comments

[gillieweed.livejournal.com]

Being there to support your friend is very important, maybe the most important. Grandad got to see what a wonderful friend his grandson has. There's nothing "right" to say in this situation, again, just you being there was enough.

[valis2.livejournal.com]

:) Thank you so much. I'm so lucky to have such good friends.

I haven't turned on the chat program yet because I've been so preoccupied with everything else, but I hope to be on tonight, or at the very least tomorrow night.