There are times
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valis2when I want to switch lives.
Sometimes I get jealous of other people who have sane, responsible adult lives. No, really. I am a total grasshopper, out in the sun and the snow, and worse yet, it's my own thinking and actions that have gotten me here.
I am really trying to make a life, and it's not working out, and I'm starting to see that I have some issues that are thwarting me.
I was home for FOUR MONTHS STRAIGHT. What did I accomplish? Nothing beyond what I absolutely, positively had to do. I wasted a lot of time. My website is STILL not operational, and it's been five years! I have three years' worth of clothes and shoes (nice-quality) to sell on eBay--and I didn't list a thing!
I am totally procrastinating.
It's time to draw the line and make my life. I have less than a year before I attempt to buy a house. I must get my website going. Cafépress. EBay the clothing/shoes. And now I want to work on an Etsy shop. I meant to work on my children's series, and nothing happened. I wanted to at least write a chapter, if not two or three, for tLS.
All of those things I've been meaning to do MUST BE DONE so that I can see what my income level becomes with all things running concurrently. I absolutely must bring in at least $400 more per month than I'm making now. And I really want that house.
(Yeah, I did drag some videogame stuff out and sell it. And I did get ready to sell clothing, but didn't sell any. I'm pretty disappointed in myself--I did my usual, and not much more.)
I need to drag myself out of the credit card hole.
I need to get into a regular work schedule. My mind just cannot grasp this--I do have periods where I work like a crazy person, and then, almost as a spiteful thing, my mind rebells when I get home, and wants to play on the internet. It wants to jump from thing to thing, and if it doesn't feel like doing what I must do, it gets pouty, and disoriented, and I sit at my crafting desk and stare at things and get nothing whatsoever done.
How do people get past their own roadblocks? I haven't a clue. When all is said and done, I do work 40+ every week, but I should do more, definitely. And I must do more. I must get super organized so that I stop making stupid mistakes (or at least fewer stupid mistakes) and I have to try to pay attention.
The usual valis method:
1.) Have to do something? Okay, I will sit and think about it and think about it, trying to understand the whole situation so that I can attack it in the best, most efficient manner.
2.) Let's see...the job consists of parts A through G.
3.) Hmm. There are other things I must do in order to complete parts B and G. Therefore I will not start the project until I have B and G ready to go. Otherwise I will have half-finished things lying around, which I hate.
4.) Hmm. Part C isn't quite efficient enough. Something might break/fail. Must put everything on the backburner so that my mind can solve it later.
5.) Thinking about part C.
6.) Distracted (from one day to three years); might possibly complete part B and/or G, but probably not.
7.) MUST DO PROJECT. Time is almost up.
8.) Thinking about the project anew.
9.) Hmm. Must do things in order to complete parts B and G. (Finishes what is left)
10.) Hmm. Part C. Fucking bastard part C. I hate you.
11.) Asks family and friends for advice. Is dissatisfied--everyone has thought of the same solutions.
12.) DEADLINE LOOMS.
13.) Works on parts A through G in scattered fashion--completing parts A and D, then running to G, then back to B, then back to G, and so on, leaving C until last because I'm still freaking out about it.
14.) Frantically finishes everything, and works on part C in haphazard manner.
15.) Everything is finished, but contains stupid mistakes.
I am a procrastinating perfectionist, I have a touch of OCD, and my mind is constantly distracting me. Yes, I can focus sometimes, and I do--I'm able to do really boring detailed work when I'm at my day job for eight hours at a time--but at home? Argh! I just can't get back into a rhythm.
I think I'm just so used to dashing about in between time away that I have no idea how to work out my schedule when I'm home.
Now I'll try to think of positive things. I don't want to make myself obsess over the negative things. I have managed to get rid of three giant boxes of video game stuff, I've managed to prepare enough for the clothing listings that I will be able to list them as soon as I get home, I have sorted some merchandise I needed to sort (2/3 done, I'd say) and am ready for spring shows, I actually have sent off applications for spring shows, and I've managed to find a pair of shoes. And I put together an entire dress outfit for a wedding I went to in December. And I did shows while I was home, and I crafted several items, and I had a giveaway on the LJ, and I cleaned out bookcases because of the water leak. I also now have a new DVD player for the office, so theoretically I'll be able to craft and watch DVDs and not obsess so much over the crappy cable. And I am getting a new car stereo installed on Monday and new brakes on Tuesday, which I really need. I have made a little bit of progress on the children's series.
Thanks for letting me rant, flist. I needed that.
Sometimes I get jealous of other people who have sane, responsible adult lives. No, really. I am a total grasshopper, out in the sun and the snow, and worse yet, it's my own thinking and actions that have gotten me here.
I am really trying to make a life, and it's not working out, and I'm starting to see that I have some issues that are thwarting me.
I was home for FOUR MONTHS STRAIGHT. What did I accomplish? Nothing beyond what I absolutely, positively had to do. I wasted a lot of time. My website is STILL not operational, and it's been five years! I have three years' worth of clothes and shoes (nice-quality) to sell on eBay--and I didn't list a thing!
I am totally procrastinating.
It's time to draw the line and make my life. I have less than a year before I attempt to buy a house. I must get my website going. Cafépress. EBay the clothing/shoes. And now I want to work on an Etsy shop. I meant to work on my children's series, and nothing happened. I wanted to at least write a chapter, if not two or three, for tLS.
All of those things I've been meaning to do MUST BE DONE so that I can see what my income level becomes with all things running concurrently. I absolutely must bring in at least $400 more per month than I'm making now. And I really want that house.
(Yeah, I did drag some videogame stuff out and sell it. And I did get ready to sell clothing, but didn't sell any. I'm pretty disappointed in myself--I did my usual, and not much more.)
I need to drag myself out of the credit card hole.
I need to get into a regular work schedule. My mind just cannot grasp this--I do have periods where I work like a crazy person, and then, almost as a spiteful thing, my mind rebells when I get home, and wants to play on the internet. It wants to jump from thing to thing, and if it doesn't feel like doing what I must do, it gets pouty, and disoriented, and I sit at my crafting desk and stare at things and get nothing whatsoever done.
How do people get past their own roadblocks? I haven't a clue. When all is said and done, I do work 40+ every week, but I should do more, definitely. And I must do more. I must get super organized so that I stop making stupid mistakes (or at least fewer stupid mistakes) and I have to try to pay attention.
The usual valis method:
1.) Have to do something? Okay, I will sit and think about it and think about it, trying to understand the whole situation so that I can attack it in the best, most efficient manner.
2.) Let's see...the job consists of parts A through G.
3.) Hmm. There are other things I must do in order to complete parts B and G. Therefore I will not start the project until I have B and G ready to go. Otherwise I will have half-finished things lying around, which I hate.
4.) Hmm. Part C isn't quite efficient enough. Something might break/fail. Must put everything on the backburner so that my mind can solve it later.
5.) Thinking about part C.
6.) Distracted (from one day to three years); might possibly complete part B and/or G, but probably not.
7.) MUST DO PROJECT. Time is almost up.
8.) Thinking about the project anew.
9.) Hmm. Must do things in order to complete parts B and G. (Finishes what is left)
10.) Hmm. Part C. Fucking bastard part C. I hate you.
11.) Asks family and friends for advice. Is dissatisfied--everyone has thought of the same solutions.
12.) DEADLINE LOOMS.
13.) Works on parts A through G in scattered fashion--completing parts A and D, then running to G, then back to B, then back to G, and so on, leaving C until last because I'm still freaking out about it.
14.) Frantically finishes everything, and works on part C in haphazard manner.
15.) Everything is finished, but contains stupid mistakes.
I am a procrastinating perfectionist, I have a touch of OCD, and my mind is constantly distracting me. Yes, I can focus sometimes, and I do--I'm able to do really boring detailed work when I'm at my day job for eight hours at a time--but at home? Argh! I just can't get back into a rhythm.
I think I'm just so used to dashing about in between time away that I have no idea how to work out my schedule when I'm home.
Now I'll try to think of positive things. I don't want to make myself obsess over the negative things. I have managed to get rid of three giant boxes of video game stuff, I've managed to prepare enough for the clothing listings that I will be able to list them as soon as I get home, I have sorted some merchandise I needed to sort (2/3 done, I'd say) and am ready for spring shows, I actually have sent off applications for spring shows, and I've managed to find a pair of shoes. And I put together an entire dress outfit for a wedding I went to in December. And I did shows while I was home, and I crafted several items, and I had a giveaway on the LJ, and I cleaned out bookcases because of the water leak. I also now have a new DVD player for the office, so theoretically I'll be able to craft and watch DVDs and not obsess so much over the crappy cable. And I am getting a new car stereo installed on Monday and new brakes on Tuesday, which I really need. I have made a little bit of progress on the children's series.
Thanks for letting me rant, flist. I needed that.
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Date: 2008-01-13 06:31 pm (UTC)There is a really popular organizational book for
SHE's -- sidetracked home executives. They talk about getting your house in order, but it is kind of the same thing. One of the many small, helpful things that they suggest is the 15-minute idea. Your house didn't get messed up in a day, it won't get cleaned up in a day. Diligently, every day, set your timer for 15 minutes, and tell yourself you are going to work on this one small project. Cleaning out a drawer, clearing clutter out of the living room. In your case maybe sorting merchandise. Getting started is the big problem because the job is huge and it seems overwhelming. You give yourself permission to quit after 15 minutes, and so it doesn't seem so bad. Often, when I use this, I find myself working longer than the 15 minutes.
HTH!
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Date: 2008-01-13 08:43 pm (UTC)I'm seeing that I really have to get excited about something to do it. I have to get into a Getting Things Done mood.
I'm definitely seeing a light at the end of the tunnel. I looked over my lists, and it isn't as overwhelming as I thought it was. I might even be okay when I leave for AZ, believe it or not!